Divorce at Altitude: A Podcast on Colorado Family Law

Who is Erik Wolff Again | Episode 122

September 09, 2022 Ryan Kalamaya & Amy Goscha
Divorce at Altitude: A Podcast on Colorado Family Law
Who is Erik Wolff Again | Episode 122
Show Notes Transcript

We often refer to Eric and Melanie Wolff's story here on our Divorce at Altitude podcast, but if you are a new listener, you might find yourself wondering who they are.

In this short episode, Ryan re-shares the story of fictional divorce client Eric Wolff. Many of the scenarios and feelings that Eric and Melanie go experience in their divorce story resonate with many individuals going through or thinking about divorce. Stay tuned for future episodes to hear Melanie's perspective on their divorce.

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Ryan Kalamaya and Amy Goscha provide tips and recommendations on issues related to divorce, separation, and co-parenting in Colorado. Ryan and Amy are the founding partners of an innovative and ambitious law firm, Kalamaya | Goscha, that pushes the boundaries to discover new frontiers in family law, personal injuries, and criminal defense in Colorado.

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Ryan Kalamaya (3s):
Hey everyone. I'm Ryan Kalamaya

Amy Goscha (6s):
And I'm Amy Goscha

Ryan Kalamaya (7s):
Welcome to the divorce at altitude. A podcast on Colorado family law

Amy Goscha (12s):
Divorce is not easy. It really sucks. Trust me. I know besides being an experienced divorce attorney, I'm also a divorced client.

Ryan Kalamaya (20s):
Whether you are someone considering divorce or a fellow family law attorney listen in for weekly tips and insight into topics related to divorce co-parenting and separation in Colorado. Eric Wolf opens the door to his car, climbs inside and tosses his iPhone on the passenger seat. A Starbucks cup is still sitting in the cup holder. His wife, Melanie left it there. When she borrowed his car, hers was of course in the shop because she backed into another car in a parking lot. The side of the cup makes Eric angry. Again. They had had a fight and she seemed indifferent to the cost of the deductible and the inconvenience of using his car until hers was fixed.

Ryan Kalamaya (1m 7s):
He had a business to run after all and thought he, she could have put up with the shop freebie, but she said it was small and ugly. And he was just tired of arguing next to the half empty coffee cup. There's a receipt from one of Melanie's shopping, escapades. How can a purse cost the same as pair of skis? Eric wonders. He knows it is a double standard, especially considering his recent hell's skiing trip with the boys. The difference is that he worked relentlessly to pay for it all. He's always been an ambitious and hard worker, but now his business is a sanctuary. Instead of fighting, he pours his energy into his work.

Ryan Kalamaya (1m 47s):
He rarely sees his kids because he is working or they're in bed. When he gets home their once, great marriage is more like a strange business partnership. Now, while he sits up and watches the news, Melanie heads to bed with a book, he knows she's awake sometimes, but she pretends to sleep. When he crawls into bed, sometimes he sleeps on the sofa or in the spare room. When he talks to Melanie, it is only out of necessity and brief and unemotional. She doesn't complain about his absences anymore. Eric thinks she probably likes it when he's away now, but he worries about the number of empty wine bottles. He finds in the garage. When he gets back from his trips, he starts the car and the rolling stones.

Ryan Kalamaya (2m 28s):
Come on. I can't get no satisfaction cuz I can try. And I try and I try. He turns it up louder than normal. His emotions pour into his Keith Richards, his air guitar solo at the red light. Traffic is heavy and he's going to be late. Even though he left early Eric size and pulls into a parking lot, alongside a low song office building, he's been dreading this counseling session with Melanie. His gut tells him it would take a miracle to fix their marriage, but he loves his family in hopes. They can make things work. This episode is brought to you by our law firm. Callam Gosia Amy and I describe our law firm as an innovative and ambitious trial team that pushes the boundaries to discover new frontiers in family law, personal injuries in criminal defense in Colorado.

Ryan Kalamaya (3m 16s):
We currently have offices in Aspen, Glenwood Springs, Edwards, Denver, and Boulder. If you wanna find out more, visit our website, Callam may.law. Now back to the show, he walks into the counselor's office and sits down. Melanie of course is texting someone on her phone and doesn't even say hello without looking up. She says, you're late. You're supposed to sit in that chair pointing to the other seat. Only three feet away. Eric's temperature rises. It's obviously this isn't going to go smoothie. The counselor greets Melanie and Eric. When she walks in Melanie immediately takes control of the session. She rages over Eric's absences and is indifference to their marriage and their kids.

Ryan Kalamaya (3m 60s):
Her face is flushed in her eyes flashed as she recounts her struggles. Eric fills a mixture of guilt and satisfaction at seeing her. Finally finally shows some emotion. Again, still he's concerned about how all this is affecting the kids. Melanie dramatically announces that she hired a divorce lawyer earlier that day. He flinch, but then forces his attention back to the counselor's voice. He's relieved. Melanie wants a divorce because they have grown so far apart, but he's also ticked off as her move makes him realize this was all just a waste of time. It is the most logical step, but he resents that this somehow gives her the upper hand.

Ryan Kalamaya (4m 41s):
Will he become a failed marriage statistic? And one of those guys who's ruined by his divorce. How did we get to this point? I never thought that this would happen to me. He thinks, instead of having back to the office, Eric heads to the mountain, to clear his head, he throws in his earbuds and rides the lift like he's done hundreds of times before he considers texting his buddies from college, with the news of his pending divorce. But he stops. He looks at family pictures on his iPhone and his eyes. Well up with tears, he skis hard. He skis fast. As he hits each mogul questions buried in his mind, come to the surface.

Ryan Kalamaya (5m 23s):
How will we break this to the kids? How will our families and friends react are Melanie and the kids going to stay in the house? How much is it going to cost to care for them? What about their college education and activities who is going to manage the money? Melanie has no money sense. Where am I gonna live? How will we split our property? What about my dog has lived with a family for so long? And what about my business? Can I protect it or am I gonna have to start all over again? Eric, Kareen's down the mountain, veers off the trail and stops.

Ryan Kalamaya (6m 3s):
He's emotionally and physically drained with tears streaming down his face. He realizes everything is different. Now for the first time in a very long time, he's unsure what to do. And he's a little scared. He quickly understands that he needs help. If he is to create a future, he wants for himself, his kids and his business. We often refer to Eric Wolf's story on this podcast, but it's sometimes helpful to listen to his story again and remind ourselves of the various issues that Eric and Melanie are going to confront in their divorce.

Ryan Kalamaya (6m 50s):
In another episode, we will retell Melanie's story because there are always two sides to every story until next time. This is Ryan call for the divorce at altitude podcast. Thanks for listening. Hey everyone. This is Ryan again. Thank you for joining us on divorce at altitude. If you found our tips, insight or discussion, helpful, please tell a friend about this podcast for show notes, additional resources or links mentioned on today's episode. Visit divorce, altitude.com. Follow us on apple podcasts, Spotify or wherever you listen in.

Ryan Kalamaya (7m 31s):
Many of our episodes are also posted on YouTube. You can also find Amy and me at kalamaya.law or 970-315-2365.