Divorce at Altitude: A Podcast on Colorado Family Law

When is it Time for a Divorce and What Should People Consider if Trying to Reconcile with Lori Kret and Jeff Cole | Episode 123

September 16, 2022 Ryan Kalamaya & Amy Goscha
Divorce at Altitude: A Podcast on Colorado Family Law
When is it Time for a Divorce and What Should People Consider if Trying to Reconcile with Lori Kret and Jeff Cole | Episode 123
Show Notes

During today’s conversation, we discuss the commonly asked question of how to tell that it’s time to get a divorce. On the flip side, we look at how to know it’s time to save your marriage. Joining us to explore these questions are licensed therapists and board-certified coaches, Lori Kret and Jeff Cole.

Lori and Jeff founded the Aspen Relationship Institute, along with the podcast Functional Love. The pair supports clients through a unique couple-to-couple coaching format. Join us today to hear the number one problem couples face, what leads married couples to begin leading separate lives, which behaviors and circumstances create a block, even in the therapy process, and find out why self-awareness is a key element to healing your relationship. 

We also discuss what is necessary to overcome a significant transgression and how Lori and Jeff help couples through that process, and they share plenty of other lived and learned relationship wisdom with us today. 

Key Points From This Episode:

  • Why the couple-to-couple format is effective, especially for men. 
  • The challenge therapists face when they provide therapy to couples.
  • What Jeff and Lori model to their clients by working through challenges in their relationship.
  • The number one problem that partners face within their marriages.
  • What contributes to living parallel lives.
  • How the felt experience of being in love changes for most couples.
  • Behaviors and circumstances which are insurmountable or extremely difficult to overcome, even in therapy.
  • The pattern-oriented nature of our relational selves.
  • How Lori and Jeff navigated their protective patterns when they first met.
  • The biggest takeaway from relationship therapy.
  • Why no healing is possible without self-awareness.
  • Creating a new relationship using information from the past. 
  • Identifying what you want from your life and what you want from a partner to identify a roadmap forwards.
  • Navigating moving past a significant transgression using the example of the fictional couple Eric and Melanie.
  • How you can benefit from listening to Jeff and Lori’s Podcast, Functional Love.


What is Divorce at Altitude? 

Ryan Kalamaya and Amy Goscha provide tips and recommendations on issues related to divorce, separation, and co-parenting in Colorado. Ryan and Amy are the founding partners of an innovative and ambitious law firm, Kalamaya | Goscha, that pushes the boundaries to discover new frontiers in family law, personal injuries, and criminal defense in Colorado.

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